Last Updated on July 6, 2025 by Pen Pixel
- There’s a kind of tired that sleep doesn’t fix.
- A kind of anger that has no clear target.
- A kind of sadness that just sits in your bones, silent and smug, like it owns you.
Burnout doesn’t knock. It breaks in, eats your motivation, steals your joy, and leaves the lights on like it’s planning to come back.
You’re just fried. And no one taught you how to say that out loud without sounding like a failure.
The Key Takeaway.
Burnout is what happens when your soul goes bankrupt trying to pay for a life that doesn’t feel like yours anymore.
What Is Burnout?
Let’s stop acting like burnout is about being “too busy. No. This is deeper than a to-do list. Burnout is when your mind, body, and spirit hold a silent meeting and all three vote to shut down.
And it shows up in the weirdest ways:
- Crying over boiled eggs.
- Ignoring texts for weeks.
- Standing in the shower like you’re buffering.
- Screaming inside while smiling outside.
Yeah. That’s burnout.
Causes of Burnout.
- Overgiving: Being the “strong one” for too long. Saying yes when you’re screaming no. Carrying everyone like you’re not bleeding too.
- Under-receiving: You give the world your all… and get crumbs back. No support. No validation. No rest. Just more “keep going.”
- Unseen pain: Mental battles. Emotional weight. Childhood stuff. All quietly choking you while you pretend to be “fine.”
- Pressure to perform: Especially when you’re Black, gifted, different, or just tired of being underestimated. You carry the burden of proving you’re worthy. All. The. Time.
- Lack of purpose: Doing a hundred things a day… and still wondering what the hell it’s all for. That emptiness? Yeah, it counts.
- Neglecting your own needs: You eat once. Sleep 4 hours. No sunlight. No hobbies. No joy. That’s not “hustle.” That’s self-abandonment.
- Living out of alignment: When your daily life doesn’t match who you really are, your body keeps the score. It revolts. Quietly, then loudly.
What Are The Signs Of Burnout?
- You wake up and feel tired.
- You dread everything, even stuff you used to love.
- You are very irritable. Like, “breathe near me and I’ll snap.”
- Zoning out in the middle of conversations.
- You feel like a fraud, even when you’re killing it.
- Nothing feels real. Like you’re watching yourself live from outside your own body.
- Every sound is loud. Every task is too much. Every ask feels like a threat.
- You fantasize about disappearing. Not to die. Just to pause.
- You feel too guilty to rest.
- Forgetting that happiness exists.
- Having a constant urge to escape, from work, from people, from yourself.
- You have random body aches, tight chest, upset stomach. Yeah, your body is snitching.
Now, let’s fix it. Or at least start to.
Radical rest.
Not “sleep when you can.” I mean deliberate, full-body, guilt-free rest. Turn your phone off. Lay flat. Let yourself do nothing.
Emotional honesty.
Say what hurts. Even if it makes you cry. Say, “I’m not okay.” Say, “This is too much.” You don’t have to explain it. Just name it.
Boundaries that don’t beg.
Protect your energy like it’s currency, because it is. Learn to say no without writing an essay.
Real support.
Find someone who sees you. Not just listens, but gets it. A friend. A coach. A therapist. Or just someone safe. You deserve soft places.
Joyful rebellion.
Dance for no reason. Eat slowly. Take slow walks. Sing off-key. Watch trash TV. Do small, silly things that remind you you’re alive.
Rewrite the story.
You’re not lazy. Not crazy. Not a failure. You’re a human who’s tired of pretending. That’s powerful. That’s your comeback moment.
Detox your identity.
If your worth is tied to being productive… snip it. You are more than your output. Let that part of you retire. For real.
Change your environment.
Sometimes the fix isn’t within. Sometimes, the job is trash. The relationship is draining. The schedule is hard. Don’t gaslight yourself into staying. Walk away if you need to.
Burnout doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’ve been holding too much, for too long, with too little support. Read that again.
