“Hey Mom, Dad, I’m a Therian.”
As easy as it sounds, it’s not easy. You might be wondering why it feels so difficult to tell your parents, family, and friends that you identify as non-human.
The challenge? It’s outside the norm. Your parents believe they gave birth to a human—not someone who sees themselves as something else. And hearing you say, “I’m an animal,” can be shocking.
In today’s world, people come out to their families about being gay, lesbian, asexual, or non-binary. But coming out as Therian? That’s not an everyday conversation.
You want to live your truth—but before you reveal your Therian identity, here are key things to consider.
What is a Therian?
A Therian is someone who believes they have the soul, mindset, or spiritual connection of an animal. This could be a wolf, fox, dragonfly, cat, snake—any creature that resonates deeply with them. Some Therians even experience shifts—mental, phantom, or dream shifts—where they feel more in tune with their animal self.
Before you decide to tell your parents, consider these key factors:
Things to Consider Before Telling Your Parents
1. Your Age & Life Experience
Your perspective evolves with time. Many teenagers explore different identities before settling into what feels right for them. Have you given yourself enough time to understand and process your Therian identity?
For example, a child may want to be a teacher at age 7, then a doctor at 12, and a musician at 16. Exploring different aspects of your identity is natural. Before making a major revelation, ensure you’ve fully thought it through.
2. Your Parents’ Beliefs & Reactions
- Are your parents open-minded?
- Do they respect your beliefs and interests?
- Are they patient and willing to listen?
Understanding your parents’ worldview and belief system can help you predict their reaction. Some parents may be accepting, while others may struggle to comprehend what being a Therian means.
3. Your Relationship with Your Parents
Do you and your parents have open, honest conversations? Or is your relationship distant? Trust plays a key role here. If you have a strong bond, they may be more willing to listen and understand.
4. Is It Necessary to Tell Them?
Ask yourself: Why do I need to tell them now?
- Do you want their support?
- Do you plan to express your Therian side openly at home?
- Is this an urgent conversation, or can it wait?
If your parents need to know because your identity affects how you live daily, then opening up might be necessary. Otherwise, you might choose to wait until you feel more prepared.
5. Do You Already Exhibit Animalistic Traits?
Does your behavior already reflect your Therian identity?
- If you identify as a cat, do you enjoy high places and solitude?
- If you’re a wolf, do you feel a strong pack mentality and heightened senses?
- Do you feel physical phantom limbs (like ears or tails)?
If your Therian identity is a deep-rooted part of your daily life, discussing it with your parents might be inevitable.
How to Tell Your Parents You’re a Therian
Option 1: Be Direct
Tell them upfront: “Mom, Dad, I identify as a Therian.”
- Prepare for questions—they might ask how and why you feel this way.
- Stay calm and explain what being a Therian means to you.
- Provide resources if needed (articles, forums, or videos).
Option 2: Show Them Through Actions
If you’re nervous about bringing it up, let them see it over time:
- Express your Therian identity in subtle ways (art, interests, clothing).
- Engage in Therian communities or activities.
- Let them ask about it naturally, creating an easier conversation.
Both methods work, but the best approach depends on your parents’ personalities and your relationship with them.
What Happens After Telling Them?
Your family’s reaction will vary. Some parents may accept it, while others may struggle. Either way, things will likely change. Here’s what to prepare for:
- Understanding vs. Resistance – They may need time to process this new information.
- Curiosity vs. Dismissal – Some may ask questions; others may dismiss it.
- Support vs. Skepticism – They may support you or challenge your beliefs.
Regardless of their reaction, stay confident in who you are.
Frequently Asked Questions
Will My Parents Think I’m Mentally Unstable?
It’s possible. Being Therian is not a widely understood identity, so they may initially see it as confusion or imagination. Reassure them that this is who you are, not a phase.
Should I Hide It If They React Negatively?
If your parents strongly oppose your Therian identity, you may need to express it privately or in safe spaces (online communities, close friends, etc.). Your safety and well-being always come first.
Will My Life Change After Telling Them?
Yes. They may start seeing you differently or even question how to interact with you. Change can be good or bad, but knowing where you stand will help you move forward.
Final Thoughts
Telling your parents you’re a Therian is a personal choice. Weigh the pros and cons, consider their perspective, and prepare for any outcome. Whatever happens, your identity is valid, and you deserve to live authentically.
