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You ever lose weight… and feel more broken than when you started?
Like, “Congrats, you’re smaller, but now your brain thinks one grape will ruin you forever.”
Yeah. I’ve been there. And it’s ugly.
Nobody tells you that the food part is easy compared to the head part.
Calories don’t whisper at 2 AM, your trauma does.
See, diets make you feel like weight loss is a battle between you and bread.
But it’s not.
It’s a war between who you are… and who you think you’re allowed to be.
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The Key Takeaway.
If your “nutrition plan” feels like punishment, you’re already setting yourself up to binge, quit, or hate your body in a whole new way. Real sustainable eating is not about cutting everything, it’s about cutting the bullpoop, both on your plate and in your head. If it doesn’t feel like something you could still do when you’re 60 and tired of caring, it’s not sustainable.
The Big Shift You’re Avoiding.
Everyone wants a meal plan. Few want a mind plan.
Because fixing what you eat without fixing why you eat is like mopping up a flood while the tap’s still running.
You can count calories till your soul shrinks, but if your self-worth is still tied to a number, your “goal weight” is just another prison cell.
Sustainable Eating Strategies for Weight Loss.
- Stop eating like you’re on a punishment diet. If your plate looks like sadness with a side of air, you’re not a health queen, you’re a ticking time bomb. I’ve done the chicken-and-broccoli prison sentence. You know what it taught me? That joyless eating always backfires. You’re not a monk. You need food you like, or you’ll keep cheating… and then hating yourself for it.
- Build a “forever menu,” not a crash menu. I call it my “Monday-through-death” plan. Foods I can eat whether I’m 20, 40, or 80. Stuff that’s filling, actually tastes good, and doesn’t make me feel like I’m rehearsing for a famine. For me, that means things like spicy grilled fish, plantain, whole grain rice, and veggies I actually like. Not kale because Instagram told me so.
- The 70-30 rule is my lifesaver. 70% real, nutrient-packed food. 30% guilt-free pleasure. Why? Because telling yourself you can never have ice cream again is basically telling your brain, “Please obsess over ice cream until I break.” And then you do. Loudly. With sprinkles.
- You’re not “bad” for eating more. You’re human. The “clean eating” cult will have you believe one cookie is a moral failure. It’s not. It’s food. One meal won’t ruin you, just like one salad won’t save you.
- Stop following meal plans that don’t fit your actual life. If your diet requires you to buy rare imported quinoa that costs more than your rent, forget it. You will quit. Your body needs something you can afford, cook, and enjoy in your actual reality, not the fantasy Pinterest version of it.
- Learn your trigger times. We all have them. Mine? Late nights and stress days. That’s when the “I deserve something” voice shows up. Instead of pretending I’m strong enough to ignore it, I make sure I’ve got go-to snacks that don’t throw me into a binge spiral. Sometimes that’s roasted groundnuts. Sometimes popcorn. Sometimes tea.
- Make peace with slow progress. The “I want it gone by next month” mindset will ruin you. Slow weight loss is boring but it’s the only one that sticks. If it took you years to gain it, it won’t leave in a week without wrecking something else.
- Don’t compare your plate to Instagram fitness girls. Half of them are starving, photoshopping, or sponsored to lie. The other half aren’t showing you the late-night pizza. Your body is not a PR campaign.
Sustainable eating is about eating in a way that feels like living, not surviving. The day you can eat without overthinking, without doing math, without fearing the “wrong” food? That’s the day you’ve won. And guess what? It’s not just weight loss you’ll keep. It’s your life.
